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Post by clrichardson on Sept 27, 2007 18:19:12 GMT -5
Wow I so need to vent. I know none of you guys are parents but maybe you can offer some insight anyway.. My kids' friends keep coming over here unannounced, every single day, and they always want something from me - food, drink, snacks, paper to draw on, etc. Then they bring their brothers and sisters and even more friends over here and one day this place was humming with about ten children, like I'm the village babysitter or something. They stuck their arms in my fish tank trying to catch my frog, ripped the cushions off my couch, tipped over my rocker, broke my foot rest that came with my rocker, and threw trash all over my floor. I finally got them to stop doing that and I told them I can't feed them anymore, but they continue to beg for food and drink. Not just snacks either. And when I say no, they wait until my back is turned and sneak in my fridge. I've caught them more than once. They've also been barging into my bedroom, which is HUGELY annoying to me. Today one of them walked right in and I didn't even know she was visiting, she just walked right into my room and tried to sneak past me with a handful of my drawing paper. When she realized I had caught her then she asked if she could have some. I should have kicked her out right then. I have a hard time putting my foot down, especially since most of these kids are...let's just say of another race...and this seems to be a somewhat racial neighborhood we live in. I don't want word to get out that I was being mean to minority kids. You know what I'm saying? I don't know how to handle this situation, but I've been getting more and more upset with them to the point where I had to yell at them a couple of times. They're the only friends my kids have since we moved here but they're driving me nuts and I desperately want to ban them from my house! Any ideas, suggestions, or comments?
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Post by Apocalypse TJ on Sept 27, 2007 19:52:37 GMT -5
If I were you, I would ban them because this is more than just hanging out, they're practically destroying your house and doing things they shouldn't be doing. If you know their parents, I'd highly suggest paying them a visit and telling them what their kid has been doing in your home. Obviously, these kids don't know a thing about manners and being a good visitor. It's amazing to me your kids would already have friends even though you just moved... but maybe they should just play outside, play with them at the other kids' houses or at the school/playground or something. It's definitely not working out having them coming into your house as a place to play. You probably don't have much of a choice other than to put your foot down if you want to save your sanity.
I hope you get it to work out for the best.
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Post by clrichardson on Sept 27, 2007 20:27:51 GMT -5
Yeah I think you're right. Too bad I don't have a clue who their parents are. Around here the kids just sort of run around in packs without any supervision. It's a big apartment complex with many buildings and 3 floors per building, so they could be anyone's kids. Thanks TJ. By the way are you feeling better?
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Post by Apocalypse TJ on Sept 28, 2007 1:56:52 GMT -5
Ya, I'm doing a lot better. Thanks for asking. They run around in packs, huh. Hmm... that'd be a bit tougher to solve. :/
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Post by clrichardson on Sept 28, 2007 7:37:15 GMT -5
Well I can't let them run all over me anymore. I don't even think they accept that I'm the lady of the house. They think I'm a teenager. I'm in my 20's but I look like I'm 15. I was mistaken for a 14-y/o once by an adult. I told them I'm my kids' mom but then they went and asked my mother if SHE was their mom. Like they didn't believe me. Little rats. lol. I'm putting my foot down, maybe harder than I should, but those kids are banned from my house for a week. Thanks for the advice! And I'm so glad you're feeling better!
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Post by skylerduma on Oct 1, 2007 19:45:31 GMT -5
I do agree with TJ, you should ban them. They are taking your stuff, they are trashing your house and eating your food. Banning is the answer.
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Post by Jess on Oct 1, 2007 21:23:06 GMT -5
tell 'em to get lost in a cornfield! lol just kidding XD
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Post by Demyx on Oct 1, 2007 23:09:58 GMT -5
I agree with everything stated above, and if anybody says anything to you about discriminating or whatever, just tell them all that you told us o.o
And... I guess you could tell them to get lost in a cornfield too XD Just like my cat did! O.O
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Post by Broken on Oct 21, 2007 20:18:19 GMT -5
This may sound mean. Kick them out! Your kids can find new and -better- friends later. lol. I would be nailing boards over my doors from these kids! I hate children ><
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Post by clrichardson on Oct 21, 2007 22:16:28 GMT -5
Oh yeah, since the last time I posted here I kind of flipped out on one of the friends. I had told her a couple of times that I didn't want anyone coming inside, so she sat at the screen door (patio door) and was talking to my daughters. I heard her tell my 3-year-old to beg me to let her come inside. My daughter refused. She pushed it. So I came out and told her to stop telling my daughter what to do. Then, a little while later, she opened the screen door (the latch on it is broken but I had it DUCT TAPED SHUT for pete's sake...she had to really pull at it) and grabbed our kitten and was playing with her OUTSIDE on the patio! And then she blamed it on my 5-year-old daughter. Wow, did I hit the roof. lol. I stormed over there and yelled at her, took the cat back, told her to go home and slammed the door. Didn't see her for a couple of days but after that she was very nice to me. And ALL the kids have been staying away from our place. I love it.
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Post by Broken on Oct 22, 2007 10:21:50 GMT -5
That's great! What little brats >.> I am one to blame it on their parents parenting 'skills' or the race (I'm not usually racist- just know what the majority is like so yeah...)
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Post by Jess on Oct 22, 2007 12:22:32 GMT -5
some kids just dont have manners, no matter what the parents do. me & aaron (hes 16) turned out wonderfully thanks to M&D, but my 2 youngest brothers... different story. if the 4 year old wants something to drink, he tells my mom, "hey, get me some water!" my jaw hit the floor when i first heard that come out of his mouth. i dont know where he learned to be so rude, but it wasnt M&D. its not always the parents fault.
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Post by clrichardson on Oct 22, 2007 15:32:33 GMT -5
Actually the girl I'm talking about is their only white friend. The others have been very respectful since I firmly but gently put my foot down weeks ago. I kind of pity her because she doesn't have a mom...well she does, but she's either in prison or rehab. So it's just her dad raising her and her sister. lol Jess you don't want to come over to my house. Leona always talks like that. XD "Moma, get me some water.." We've been trying to teach her "please" ever since she could talk, but she always forgets. She's not trying to be rude. But whenever I correct her and say "Leona, how do you ask?" she always smiles and says "please" lol. More than once Danny has sat her down and tried to explain that she has to say it the first time, but the girl has such a short attention span. She's only 3 after all. Oh well, she'll get it in time. Rea did. =P
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Post by Jess on Oct 23, 2007 8:51:02 GMT -5
yeah, but she's not being rude on purpose lol. i bet ur glad u didn't have boys XD
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Post by clrichardson on Oct 23, 2007 9:14:58 GMT -5
lol I was hoping for boys, but I love my girls! And they're enough of a handful for me! XD
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