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Post by TwilightChaser on Feb 24, 2008 5:57:31 GMT -5
(Fair warning - i'm typing while wore out and kinda crying - so forgive any typos or bad grammer)
I guess to put this out bluntly before I go into my rant, i'm having major self confidence issues.
I'm almost trying to avoid sleep some times because I seriously keep dreaming about me and my ex still being together. Just how complete she made me feel, like two misfits made for each other. I loved that so much about her. She was the only one around that got and loved what I was like and was into.
Now more recently thinking of trying to look for someone new has been scary. I'll admit that I feel alot different from others guys in my area. (In some ways, I feel like i'm one of the only sane ones left) and I know that I have to of course make some sacrifices in order for a relationship to work. But it feels like everyone around me has so much different attitudes. Like the other day I was at our mall's bookstore, and these two girls were looking at me and giggling. I didn't really know how to take it or what to think. Were they looking and laughing because they think i'm interesting? Or did they do that because I look or act weird to them?
I guess i'm just torn on my want and lust to have someone - and my fear of being a part of a terrible relationship. Or ultimately not having anyone and living alone. *howl and whimpers*
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Post by clrichardson on Feb 25, 2008 11:02:18 GMT -5
It'll be ok. I think it sounds like those bookstore girls were checking you out! (I'll admit that's what me and my friends used to do when we were younger lol.) It is scary because it's new, and the future is so unknown.. You've got to rely on your own good sense and trust that there is someone out there who's perfect for you (and that you'll find her!).
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Post by Papillon on Feb 25, 2008 20:54:27 GMT -5
Awww... Breakups are hard. Just remember this; there is no such thing as endings, only new beginnings. There's someone out there who is perfect for you... Who knows, it might even be you ex... But if it's not her, be confident that she will be the missing piece of the puzzle. I will be praying for you. Seeing that I haven't had too many serious relationships, I'm afraid that's all I got.
Good luck! *hugs*
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Post by TwilightChaser on Feb 26, 2008 3:23:22 GMT -5
Okay, took some time to really think and ask some others for advice. You two are very right on just looking in and relying on who I believe are good people. I guess it's been so long since I really "dated" that I kinda needed to remember that it takes time. One online friend of mine had suggested that maybe even taking a small time off from looking may even help. I do think that may be a good idea. Give myself time to feel better and maybe work on things that make me feel less confident at this present time. So, time for this wolf to sit down with a nice treat to gnaw on and some friendly pettings, and then go back on the prowl for potential she-wolves. Thanks so much both of you! The words, hugs, and prayers all helped out! *furiously happy tail wagging* ;D
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Post by Apocalypse TJ on Feb 28, 2008 0:23:16 GMT -5
A good rule my friend had for dating: after a break up, don't look for anyone new until a time equal to how long your last relationship was plus 6 months. For example, if you were with someone for 3 months, then don't look for anyone new for 9 months. That's about how long it takes to get over an ex properly. I've noticed that the people I know who have tried that are a lot happier than the ones who go back to dating right after a break up. It's even worked for me, too!
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Post by TwilightChaser on Feb 28, 2008 1:34:55 GMT -5
Wow, but that would mean to take near 17 months. I will keep that in mind, seeing as how I thought about time off anyway. Thanks for the tip.
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Post by clrichardson on Mar 4, 2008 17:58:31 GMT -5
I think TJ gave some good advice there. But it also depends on the individual and how deep the loss is. I once dated the a guy for 5 years, so if I had followed that rule I would have gone crazy lol. But I met my husband about 6 months after the breakup. I believe it took every second of that 6 months to get me to the point where I was ready.
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